Grounded and Centered: Transforming Stress to Serenity

By Melody Wright, LMFT

Imagine you’re on a ship out at sea. The once-calm waves are now becoming rogue and chaotic, which pulls you further away from the safety of the shore. When you look across the horizon, you can see the land diminishing in the distance, and a sense of overwhelm sets in. You find yourself at a loss, unsure of how to regain control of your situation. In the midst of the chaos, you remember you have an anchor. Without hesitation, you lower the anchor, securing your boat to the ocean floor. As you feel the anchor take hold, a sense of stability and peace sets in. You become aware that the waves no longer dictate the movement of your boat.

The waves of life continuously change which can cause many different emotions, thoughts, and reactions. As the captains of our “ship” called life, we hold a power resource, our anchor, the grounding tool. In other words, if you are grounded in life, you have the power to engage in peace on an inward level even when life is chaotic. In this blog, we will discuss the importance of grounding and techniques you can use in your day-to-day life. 

Why is Grounding Important?

Grounding is an important practice that allows us to find serenity in the midst of our stress. It supports us by allowing us to reconnect with the present moment and find a sense of stability. When we intentionally anchor ourselves to the here and now, we can create a deeper awareness of our surroundings and ourselves. When we become more aware of ourselves we become more attuned to our strengths, weaknesses, values, and beliefs. This heightened sense of self-awareness allows us to make conscious choices that are aligned with our authentic selves, which can lead to living a more fulfilled life. This awareness also empowers us to navigate relationships without judgment, communicate more authentically, and build stronger connections with others. 

How Do You Ground? 

There are many ways to ground yourself throughout your day-to-day life. We suggest trying many different ways to see what is going to work best for you. You might also find that as you grow what worked for you before needs to be tweaked or another approach needs to be tried. Grounding is unique to you and your experiences. Here are a few grounding techniques you can try today. 

1. Deep Breathing: One of the simplest grounding techniques is deep breathing. By focusing on your breath, you can bring your attention back to the present. As you take slow, deep breaths be aware of the sensation of air entering and leaving your body. This practice not only grounds you but also activates relaxation by reducing the intensity of your body's stress response.
   

2. Grounding Objects: Having a tangible object to hold on to can help you ground. Consider carrying a small object such as a smooth stone, a worry stone, or a piece of fabric to run your fingers over. Whenever you feel overwhelmed or disconnected, hold the object in your hand and pay attention to its texture, weight, and temperature. Focusing on the object redirects your attention to the present and creates a sense of stability and connection.
   

3. Meditation: This grounding technique takes practice but is one of the best.  You can find a calm spot to sit or lie down. Close your eyes and focus on your breath or a chosen point. When thoughts come up you can acknowledge them without judgment and return your attention to the present. Mindfulness meditation helps to quiet the mind, reduce stress, and improve overall well-being. With regular practice, you can develop a greater ability to stay grounded and centered even when challenging situations occur. 

Final Thoughts

Grounding techniques offer practical ways to support our mental, emotional, and physical well-being. These tools also create space for you to find healing from anxiety, depression, and even trauma. If you would like to learn more about the mind-body connection check out our free downloadable eBook, The Mind-Body Tool Kit. We also have an amazing team of therapists who have extensive experience and training in healing the whole person. We are currently offering sessions in-person, during the weekend, online, and sessions in Spanish. You can CLICK HERE to schedule your free phone consultation today! 

Additional Resources

If you would like to learn about grounding and tools to help you ground, check out the resources below!

1. Mindfulness: An Eight-Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World by Mark Williams and Danny Penman

2. The Healing Power of Mindfulness: A New Way of Being" by Jon Kabat-Zinn

3. "Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life" by Jon Kabat-Zinn

4. You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay

5. The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle

6. The Magic of Manifesting: 15 Advanced Techniques To Attract Your Best Life, Even If You Think It's Impossible Now by Ryuu Shinohara

7. Grace Unfolding: Psychotherapy in the Spirit of Tao-te ching by Greg Johanson and Ronald S. Kurtz

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Embracing the Present: Exploring the Power of Mindfulness

By Melody Wright, LMFT

Have you ever had a season of life where you feel like your thoughts have taken over? Your peace is gone, anxiety is up, and maybe you feel frozen. This is more common than you think! It’s no secret that we live in a world that constantly demands our attention and pulls us in countless directions. It makes it almost impossible to remain in the present moment. However, there is power in embracing the present moment and living a mindful life. Cultivating mindfulness brings awareness, gratitude, and a deeper connection with ourselves and the world around us. So how exactly do we harness the power of the present moment? In this blog, we will explore the nature of mindful living and discover how embracing the power of the present moment can transform our lives.

What is mindfulness? 

At its core, mindfulness is the practice of being fully present and engaged in the moment you’re in without creating judgment or attaching it to past or future events. It involves cultivating a state of increased awareness and acceptance, which allows us to experience life with more clarity and ultimately permits us to live with authenticity. Engaging in mindfulness encourages us to acknowledge and accept our thoughts, and emotions without trying to control or resist them. By engaging with the present, we can break free from the “autopilot mode” that can dominate our lives. Rather than being carried away by regrets of the past or consumed by anxieties of the future, we learn to anchor ourselves in the now. This anchoring empowers us to respond consciously to the circumstances of our lives, which cultivates resilience, peace, and self-awareness.

Mindfulness also involves establishing a compassionate and non-judgmental attitude toward ourselves and others. It invites us to observe our inner experiences with curiosity and kindness, without labeling them as good or bad. This non-reactive stance creates space for self-reflection, self-compassion, and the potential for personal growth and transformation. Mindful living is an ongoing journey of self-discovery where we consciously choose to dwell in the present moment. 

What are the Benefits of engaging in mindfulness?

There are many benefits to having mindfulness as a tool in your life. It can create a sense of calm and inner peace, which can reduce stress and anxiety. Mindfulness also enhances our emotional well-being by promoting self-compassion and acceptance which can pour over into our relationships. As we learn to listen attentively, communicate more effectively, and empathize with ourselves, we may find that our understanding and communication improve with those around us. Additionally, mindful living can boost our productivity and creativity by sharpening our focus and enabling us to engage fully in our tasks.

Ways to Practice mindfulness

Now that we’ve talked about the importance of engaging in mindfulness, I’m sure you’re wondering how to cultivate it. Here are a few tips to start your journey. 

1. Practice Gratitude: Regularly expressing gratitude creates a positive mindset and shifts your focus to the present moment. You can do this by journaling or starting your day by finding 3 things to be grateful for.
   

2. Using Breathing Techniques: Take a few moments each day to focus on your breath, observing its natural rhythm. You can even perform different breathing techniques such as box breathing, alternating nostril breathing, or deep breathing. This simple practice helps anchor your awareness in the present moment and also allows you to connect with what your body might be telling you as well.
   

3. Become Aware Of Your Senses: When you pause and pay attention to the sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and textures you can fully engage with your environment and embrace each sensory experience.
   

4. Non-judgmental Observation: When you notice your thoughts and emotions without judgment you can let them come and go. This allows you to detach yourself from those thoughts and emotions and develop a deeper understanding of what you might be experiencing internally.
   

5.  Go to a Holistic Therapist: Engaging with a Holistic Therapist will give you a support system and the tools you need to learn more about mindfulness and self-awareness. Living mindfully can be challenging for some, and having this safe, supportive space can create confidence and accountability to encounter the self-growth you desire. 

Final Thoughts

In a world that often pulls us away from the present, mindfulness allows us to find peace and fulfillment. It’s not something that can just be flipped on, it's an ongoing journey. By embracing this practice, we can discover a profound sense of joy and purpose. If you are ready to engage in this transformative path and cultivate a life filled with mindful awareness, reach out to one of our therapists today. You can schedule a free consultation HERE. 

Additional Resources

If you would like to learn more about mindfulness, check out the resources below!

1. Stop Overthinking: 23 Techniques to Relieve Stress, Stop Negative Spirals, Declutter Your Mind, and Focus on the Present by Nick Trenton

2. "Mindfulness for Beginners: Reclaiming the Present Moment and Your Life" by Jon Kabat-Zinn

3. Mindfulness: An Eight-Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World by Mark Williams and Danny Penman

4. The Healing Power of Mindfulness: A New Way of Being" by Jon Kabat-Zinn

5. "Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life" by Jon Kabat-Zinn

6. You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay

7. The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle

8. "Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness" by Jon Kabat-Zinn

9. "Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha" by Tara Brach

10. Think Like a Monk: Train Your Mind for Peace and Purpose Every Day by Jay Shetty 

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Healing from the Inside Out: Exploring the World of Holistic Therapy

By Melody Wright, LMFT

Have you ever been so swamped by all the busyness of life that you didn't even realize the lack of sleep, increased caffeine consumption, and the low-level fatigue that had been plaguing you all week?  If so, you're definitely not alone.  We've all experienced moments of getting so caught up in our day-to-day tasks, activities, responsibilities, and the overwhelming push of life to stay busy that we neglect or overlook moments to take a break and reconnect with ourselves and what we may be needing.

It’s completely normal to get caught up in the cyclic routines of our daily lives that we often neglect pieces of ourselves that need tending to. As you read this, you may be wondering, “How does this relate to therapy?”. In this blog, I will explain exactly how Holistic Therapy can help you take back the wheel of your life and draw attention to your WHOLE self. We’ll discuss how tending to your mind, body, emotions, and spirit can increase your resilience and promote overall healing. 

What is Holistic Therapy?

These days it seems as though we walk around with fragmented lives. We only nurture individual parts of ourselves at different times. Have you ever felt like there is “more to life”, or feel as though the person you are meant to be is stuck? You may find that this manifests in your relationships, your professional life, and even things that you enjoy. At its core, holistic therapy recognizes that our well-being is influenced by the intricate connection between our thoughts, emotions, physical health, and spirituality. Instead of viewing these as separate pieces of you, holistic therapy seeks to bridge the gaps, by cultivating a holistic perspective that integrates every part of you. 

Who is Holistic Therapy For? 

In short, Holistic Therapy is for everyone. However, this approach to therapy has been proven to cultivate deep healing in those with trauma, anxiety, depression, and other mental health challenges. The modalities used in holistic therapy can reach emotional and relational wounds from traumatic experiences like neglect, sexual trauma, and abuse that traditional talk therapy may overlook. It’s also been proven to have significant and life-changing transformation in situations where communication is needing improvement, parent-to-child relationships, and for those who are on a self-discovery journey.

Modalities Used in Holistic Therapy

Holistic therapy uses a wide range of modalities that aim to address the interconnectedness of the mind, body, and spirit in order to promote overall well-being and healing. Here are a few modalities utilized in holistic therapy. 

1. Somatic Therapy: These practices involve focusing one's attention on the present moment by creating awareness, and developing a non-judgmental attitude. Mindfulness and meditation techniques like breathwork and grounding are utilized in Somatic Therapy and can be used to reduce stress, encourage self-awareness and promote emotional balance.
   

2. Transpersonal Therapy: This modality is used by practitioners to incorporate spirituality. The objective is to enhance a person’s self-awareness and increase their overall quality of life through spirituality and self-reflection. This is achieved through techniques like guided imagery, meditation, and mindfulness practices.
   

3. Expressive Arts Therapy: This practice can be incredibly supportive for those who have a difficult time finding the words to express what they are feeling or don’t feel safe sharing. Through creativity, whether it’s art, music, or writing, people can become aware of deep emotions that they may not even realize are there.
   

4. Ecotherapy: By integrating nature into therapeutic practices, ecotherapy offers benefits to both individuals and the planet. Being in nature can reduce stress, improve mood, and increase cognitive function. The sights, sounds, and smells of nature have a calming effect on our minds, which can help to alleviate things like anxiety and depression. Walking, gardening, and simply sitting outside can support your healing journey. 

Final Thoughts

Holistic Therapy empowers you to participate in your own self-healing. You are the master of your life and the holistic approach is just a tool to support your navigation. By embracing the principles of Holistic Therapy, you can create a path of deep healing, and lasting transformation, and live a more vibrant and fulfilling life. If you are interested in learning more about Holistic Therapy, CLICK HERE, to schedule your free, no-obligation, phone consultation with our Client Care Coordinator. 

Additional Resources

Unlocking Healing Potential: Understanding Somatic Therapy and Its Transformative Benefits

Melody Wright, LMFT

When I step into a session I pay close attention to my client’s breathing, tone and speed of voice and overall energy. There’s no agenda or predetermined plan; instead, I remain completely present, engaged, and attuned with them. I rely on my own nervous system to pick up on cues from my clients and use that information to support and guide them through the ebbs and flows of the session. Many times, we remain oblivious to the messages our bodies are attempting to convey. As a somatic therapist, my role is to guide individuals in developing awareness of these signals and assist them in deciphering the meaningful communication embedded within their physical experiences. You see, in today's world, it's not uncommon for many of us to feel overwhelmed, stressed, or disconnected from ourselves. We may find ourselves trapped in the whirlwind of our thoughts, often neglecting the connection between our bodies and minds. This is the beauty of Somatic Therapy. 

Somatic therapy recognizes the intricate connection between the body and the mind, understanding that our physical experiences and emotional states are intertwined. In this blog, we will discuss the world of somatic therapy, unraveling its principles, modalities, and benefits. Whether you are a seeker of self-discovery or someone who desires to enhance their overall well-being, this blog will provide you with valuable insights into the transformative potential of Somatic Therapy.

What Are The Benefits of Somatic Therapy

With Somatic Therapy being a holistic approach to psychotherapy its principles focus on the understanding that emotional and psychological issues can be manifested and stored in the body. With that understanding, it can address the body's experiences and sensations which can lead to healing and transformation. Here are some of the principles that guide somatic therapy: 

1. Body-Mind Connection: As already mentioned, Somatic therapy emphasizes the importance of connecting fully with one's body. It encourages individuals to become aware of bodily sensations, emotions, and patterns of movement to gain a deeper understanding of their present experiences.
   

2. Mindfulness and Presence: Somatic Therapy brings awareness by promoting the practice of mindfulness. As people begin to practice mindfulness it leads them to deeper self-awareness and allows them to develop a greater capacity to respond to life's challenges with more self-love and self-acceptance.
   

3. Integration of the Mind and Body for Transformation: Somatic Therapy teaches you how to honor and understand your body. When you are able to listen to its signals and tend to the places in need you honor yourself as a whole. Integrating the tools given to you by your therapist will promote transformation, resilience, and overall healing. 

 How is Somatic Therapy Different from Talk Therapy?

Now that we’ve talked about what Somatic Therapy is and touched on some of its basic principles, let’s discuss the tools used to achieve these goals. The techniques used in Somatic Therapy are like the tools in your tool kit. One tool may work for one thing, but not for the other, like a hammer to drive a nail versus a screwdriver.  When you start therapy, your therapist will begin to provide you with these tools for healing. So what are some Somatic Therapy tools? 

1. Nervous System Regulation: By focusing on levels of activation your therapist can support you with grounding in the moment and regulating your nervous system. Conscious breathing, visualization, and touch exercises can help release tension and provide grounding. This is especially supportive to those who experience anxiety. This allows you to process emotions on a deeper level by providing a deeper awareness of what you’re experiencing in your body.
    

2. Allowing The Body To Move As It Pleases: Incorporating authentic movement helps give the body a voice by allowing the individual to release pent-up energy, frustration, and stress. With eyes closed to reduce distraction and encourage body awareness, the individual can then act out their internal emotions that they may not have words for at the moment. The movement supports releasing the “feel good” hormones like oxytocin to combat depression and trauma-related issues.
   

3. Mindfulness Practices: Mindfulness practices, such as meditation, are a common technique used in Somatic Therapy. These practices invite curiosity and acceptance. Mindfulness is a time to be led by your subconscious mind, thus connecting with authenticity and the present moment in a gentle, loving way. Mindfulness is also a way to connect with your inner resources and strength, explore past experiences, and literally create new neural pathways in your brain. When you meditate or imagine a positive situation, your brain cannot distinguish what is real versus what actually happened which creates a new positive neural pathway in your brain leading to healing in the mind and body.
   

4. Body Scanning: Self-awareness is a key piece to Somatic Therapy. Knowing what your body is saying is essential to developing that self-awareness. Body Scanning has been proven to be a very successful mindfulness technique to increase your body awareness. It supports this by giving you clues into how you are feeling or what you might be needing.

Final Thoughts

As we mentioned above, Somatic Therapy can play an intricate part in your healing journey and self-development. Many times people will visit their therapist to talk about their issues, and yes this can be supportive for a while, however, the body holds wisdom for your healing as well. The body's memory of trauma can have lasting physical effects such as chronic pain, sleep disorders or consistently living in fight or flight mode. Here at Life By Design Therapy, we have a team who is skilled and passionate about utilizing Somatic and Holistic Therapy tools to support you in a safe and non-judgmental space. If you are interested in learning more about what each therapist offers, visit our website at www.lifebydesigntherapy.com or if you are ready to get started CLICK HERE to schedule your free phone consultation with our Client Care Coordinator.

Additional resources

1. Somatic Psychotherapy Toolbox: 125 Worksheets and Exercises to Treat Trauma & Stress by Manuela Mischke-Reeds

2. In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness by Peter A. Levine

3. Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma" by Peter A. Levine

4. The Healing Power of the Breath: Simple Techniques to Reduce Stress and Anxiety, Enhance Concentration, and Balance Your Emotions" by Richard P. Brown and Patricia L. Gerbarg

5. "The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma" by Bessel van der Kolk

6. Sensorimotor Psychotherapy: Interventions for Trauma and Attachment" by Pat Ogden and Janina Fisher

7. Grace Unfolding: Psychotherapy in the Spirit of Tao-te ching by Greg Johanson and Ronald S. Kurtz

8. The Tao of Trauma: A Practitioner's Guide for Integrating Five Element Theory and Trauma Treatment by Alaine D. Duncan, Kathy L. Kain and Michael Hollifield