By Melody Wright, LMFT
There are many layers and nuances involved in healing trauma. It’s important to remember to be kind and compassionate towards yourself AND your process. Healing from trauma can be slow as you work through a multitude of feelings. The feelings you may experience are anxiety, fear, shame, deep hurt, distrust, avoidance, disappointment, disbelief and more. With time you can build more internal and external resources for healing, understanding, and acceptance.
HEALING FROM TRAUMA
In most peoples’ lives, trauma occurs. Having experienced trauma, one needs to solve it in a way that works best for each individual. Trauma can be a death of someone close to you, abuse, surviving an illness, seeing a disturbing event, and the impacts of divorce and custody issues to name a few. No two people are alike, and everyone responds to those traumas differently, so the ways to solve and overcome them need to reflect that.
Talking with a close friend or counselor is a wonderful way to begin; however, if you are not ready to discuss your feelings with anyone, there are other ways.
ART
Art encompasses many variables of expression and paves the ways such as writing, sculpting, collaging, singing, or playing music. It is essential to find a place where you can relax, which induces positive feelings and thoughts. For example, a favorite park, a special room just for you at home, near a beach, hiking in a forest. Wherever that place is, allow yourself to relax and be free of inhibiting thoughts while you use creativity.
If you are not experienced in painting or sculpting, try drawing and sketching first. Find a book on sketching or join a class to learn more. If you feel stumped, take a journal and a pen to write your feelings, goals, or challenges. If you love music, enjoy your favorite songs while you brainstorm.
Finding what works for you may take time, however, there are many possibilities to start your journey.
Journal
Write a short story;
Write a letter to a friend;
Sketch;
Paint a scene or image from your mind;
Poetry writing;
Writing or playing music;
Redecorate a space in your home;
Try a new look with your hair or clothes;
Volunteer to help in your community.
CONNECT WITH FURRY FRIENDS
Nothing beats furry friends. Our pets love us unconditionally and often notice things that people don’t. If you do not have a pet, consider what your housing is like, the size and if you have a yard for a larger outdoor pet. Once you decide which pet is right for you, consider joining a training class. If you are already a pet owner, start a new hobby such as walking, jogging or a training class for you and your pet.
PHYSICAL ACTIVITY
Physical activity helps in resolving symptoms of trauma, such as anxiety and depression. If you enjoy outdoor activities such as jogging or hiking, this is a fantastic way to focus your energy. If you are not a jogger or a runner, then walk in a park or your neighborhood. The key is to get outside, take a break from technology and television. This is also a good time to focus on your breathing and connect with your body.
TALK WITH SOMEONE
When you feel up to talking, it is always a great idea to connect with someone who can help you. Find a trusted friend or family member to confide in. This person should be supportive and not judgmental in what you are experiencing. If you do not have anyone close to you, reach out to a therapist. A therapist can help you work through your trauma and assist you in discovering creative ways to work through unresolved trauma.
POSITIVE CHANGE IS POSSIBLE
Our therapists understand that when you experience trauma your sense of safety in the world, your body, and your trust in relationships can be disrupted. Learning how to cultivate a sense of safety is an important step to healing trauma. Our somatic therapists work with clients in discovering new ways to be in the world after the disruptions of traumatic experiences by going directly to the source--the body. Realizing what is happening in your body is the foundation of the work. When you bring awareness to the sensations in your body, rather than feeling overwhelmed by them, you can have more control over your responses, which is essential for healing.
THERAPY REFLECTIONS
Do you have any unresolved traumas or past hurts that still need healing?
What can you do today to start your healing process?
What does healing mean to you and how do you know when you are healed?
