by Melody Wright, LMFT
The time is upon us when the world seems to burst with warmth and togetherness. The holiday season, with its twinkling lights, festive decorations, and joyful gatherings, is brimming with the promise of love and laughter. However, for those who are in the midst of a grief journey the holidays can feel like a minefield of emotions. Grief doesn’t adhere to the calendar and it doesn’t discriminate. For some, it might seem like grief is a constant companion, and the holidays might trigger it to feel like a formidable one.
Grief can be argued as one of the most complex emotions to encounter. Typically when we hear the word grief, our thoughts take us to loss, or more specifically the loss of someone. However, grief can stem from many life-altering events in a person’s life. This can include moving, a job change or loss, the loss of a loved one or pet, divorce, and even the end of a friendship. The grieving process is like a fingerprint, it’s unique to the person experiencing it. In this blog, we’ll discuss common symptoms of grief and provide a few mindful coping techniques to support you during this holiday season.
Understanding Grief
While everyone experiences grief in their own way, there are a few common symptoms/emotions that can occur. Understanding these common symptoms is supportive because it helps you realize that you are not alone in your experience. Grief is a natural reaction to loss, and these emotions are a testament to the depth of the connection you shared with the person or situation you are grieving.
Sadness or Dispair - The most well-known emotion in grief is sadness. It's a deep, overwhelming sense of loss that can leave you feeling as though the world is a much darker place. During the holidays, when the spotlight is on happiness and festivities, these feelings can become more profound.
Anxiety and Stress - Grief can manifest as increased stress and anxiety. The pressure to be cheerful and participate in holiday festivities can compound these feelings, making it difficult to engage in the celebrations with the same enthusiasm as before.
Isolation- Grief can make people withdraw from social activities. You may feel isolated and disconnected from the joy and celebrations around them, especially during the holiday season when everyone is coming together.
Anger and Frustration - Grief often leads to complex emotions, including anger and frustration. This anger might be directed toward yourself, the situation you’ve endured, or even the people around you. It's essential to understand that these emotions are normal responses to the grieving journey.
Possible Physical Symptoms - Grief can also manifest as physical symptoms like fatigue, headaches, and changes in appetite and sleep patterns. Because the holidays, typically come with added expectations and social activities, these physical manifestations of grief can become more pronounced.
Nostalgia and Longing - Grief often stirs up feelings of nostalgia and deep longing. During the holiday season, when many customs and traditions are rooted in treasured memories, the absence of a loved one can intensify these sentiments, making them even more powerful.
Guilt - Grief can be accompanied by feelings of guilt. You might feel guilty for not being able to join in the holiday spirit or for experiencing moments of happiness amidst your grief. It's important to remember that these feelings are part of the journey and a non-judgemental space should not be held.
Mindfully Navigating Grief
Navigating grief during the holidays can feel like an uphill climb for some people. Yet, it’s these challenging moments where these mindful techniques can support you through this season. It’s almost as though they serve as lights along the pathway to the other side of healing. Remember that implementing these techniques serves as an act of self-compassion. Exploring these techniques below, you can empower yourself to navigate the depths of grief with grace, ultimately finding moments of balance and peace even amidst the holiday season.
Journaling: Keeping a journal gives you the opportunity to release thoughts and emotions you might not feel free to do so, out loud. It can also be a great space to write letters to the person you lost, to the person whom you feel wronged you, or letters to yourself. This can be a therapeutic way to process your feelings and track your healing journey.
Join a Support Group: Connect with others who are also grieving. Support groups offer a sense of community and shared experiences, which can be incredibly comforting.
Move Your Body: Regular exercise can help alleviate stress and boost mood. A simple walk, yoga, or other physical activity can be supportive.
Maintain a Routine: Sticking to a regular schedule, including sleep, eating, and daily activities can create a sense of normalcy in the mindset of turbulent times.
Limit Alcohol and Caffeine: Alcohol and excessive caffeine can exacerbate anxiety and stress. Reducing consumption can help regulate your emotions. This is especially important during the holidays because of how convenient these beverages are to grab at a holiday gathering.
Volunteer or Help Others: During this season, the opportunities to give back are endless. Volunteering or supporting someone in need can offer a sense of purpose and fulfillment, helping to combat feelings of isolation.
Set Realistic Expectations: It’s okay to be realistic about what you can handle during the holidays and set boundaries within yourself and with others. It's okay to decline invitations or simplify traditions to reduce stress.
Nourish Your Body: Proper hydration and a balanced diet can positively impact your mood and overall well-being.
Set Future Goals: Begin to envision your future and set new goals. It can be a positive way to focus on hope and moving forward.
Seek Professional Support: Consider therapy or counseling to have a safe space to express your feelings and receive expert guidance on coping with grief.
Final Thoughts
Remember that everyone's grief journey is unique, and it's essential to choose techniques that resonate with you and adapt them to your individual needs. Healing takes time, and it's a process that deserves patience, self-compassion, and ongoing self-care. If seeking professional support is a technique you choose, consider Life By Design Therapy. We have a team who will create a warm and open space for you to move through your grief. They will also help you create a unique toolkit of techniques that are going to meet your individual needs. You can CLICK HERE to schedule a free consultation today.
Additional Resources
**If you’re interested in expanding your knowledge on grief and how to support those that are grieving, check out these books below:
Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief by Martha Whitmore Hickman
The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief by Francis Weller
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